家庭暴力

If you are in immediate danger, call 911 and a deputy will be dispatched to help you!

家庭暴力有多种形式, but in general domestic violence is a pattern of violent and coercive behavior used by one partner in a relationship to control another. It affects all communities, regardless of income, race or religion.

家庭暴力包括身体暴力, 情感虐待和性虐待, 财务控制和社会隔离. Abusive partners use fear and intimidation to establish power and control over another person, 包括威胁或使用暴力.

你是否能离开施虐者, there are things you can do to make yourself and your family safer.

紧急情况下

If you are at home and you are being threatened or attacked:

Stay away from the kitchen (the abuser can find weapons, like knives, there)
Stay away from bathrooms, closets or small spaces where the abuser can trap you
找一个有门或窗户的房间逃跑
Get to a room with a phone to call for help; lock the abuser outside if you can
Call 911 (or your local emergency number) right away for help; get the dispatcher's name
想想你可以求助的邻居或朋友
If a police officer comes, tell him/her what happened; get his/her name & 徽章数量
如果受伤，寻求医疗帮助
拍下瘀伤或受伤的照片
Call a domestic violence program or shelter (some are listed here); ask them to help you make a safety plan

如何在家保护自己

Learn where to get help; memorize emergency phone numbers
Keep a phone in a room you can lock from the inside; if you can, 买一部手机，随时带在身边
If the abuser has moved out, change the locks on your door; get locks on the windows
Plan an escape route out of your home; teach it to your children
想想如果你需要逃跑，你会去哪里
Ask your neighbors to call the police if they see the abuser at your house; make a signal for them to call the police, 例如, 如果电话响了两次, 窗帘拉下或灯亮着
Pack a bag with important things you'd need if you had to leave quickly; put it in a safe place, 或者把它交给你信任的朋友或亲戚
包括现金，车钥匙 & important information such as: court papers, passport or birth certificates, medical records & 药物、入境文件
找一个未公开的电话号码
阻塞来电显示
Use an answering machine; screen the calls
参加一个好的自卫课程

如何让你的孩子更安全

Teach them not to get in the middle of a fight, even if they want to help
Teach them how to get to safety, to call 911, to give your address & 给警察的电话号码
教他们该向谁求助
叫他们离厨房远点
Give the principal at school or the daycare center a copy of your court order; tell them not to release your children to anyone without talking to you first; use a password so they can be sure it is you on the phone; give them a photo of the abuser
Make sure the children know who to tell at school if they see the abuser
Make sure that the school knows not to give your address or phone number to ANYONE

如何在户外保护自己

改变你的旅行习惯
试着和不同的人搭顺风车
在不同的地方购物和存钱
Cancel any bank accounts or credit cards you shared; open new accounts at a different bank
Keep your court order and emergency numbers with you at all times
随身携带手机 & 设置为911(或其他紧急号码)

如何让自己在工作中更安全

在办公室里保留一份法庭命令的副本
Give a picture of the abuser to security and friends at work
Tell your supervisors - see if they can make it harder for the abuser to find you
不要一个人去吃午饭
让保安带你到你的车或公共汽车
If the abuser calls you at work, save voice mail and save e-mail
Your employer may be able to help you find community resources

用法律来帮助你

Ask your local domestic violence program who can help you get a civil protection order and who can help you with criminal prosecution

在大多数地方，法官可以:

命令施虐者远离你或你的孩子
命令施虐者离开你家
给你孩子的临时监护权 & 命令施虐者支付你临时的子女抚养费
Order the police to come to your home while the abuser picks up personal belongings
Give you possession of the car, furniture and other belongings
命令施虐者参加施虐者干预计划
命令施虐者不要在你工作的时候给你打电话
命令施虐者把枪交给警察

If you are worried about any of the following, make sure you:

给法官看你受伤的照片
Tell the judge that you do not feel safe if the abuser comes to your home to pick up the children to visit with them
Ask the judge to order the abuser to pick up and return the children at the police station or some other safe place
Ask that any visits the abuser is permitted are at very specific times so the police will know by reading the court order if the abuser is there at the wrong time
Tell the judge if the abuser has harmed or threatened the children; ask that visits be supervised; think about who could do that for you
拿一份法院命令的认证副本
任何时候都要遵守法庭秩序

刑事诉讼

向检察官出示你的法庭命令
Show the prosecutor medical records about your injuries or pictures if you have them
Tell the prosecutor the name of anyone who is helping you (a victim advocate or a lawyer)
告诉检察官有谁目击了伤害或虐待
Ask the prosecutor to notify you ahead of time if the abuser is getting out of jail

在法院注意安全

Sit as far away from the abuser as you can; you don't have to look at or talk to the abuser; you don't have to talk to the abuser's family or friends if they are there
Bring a friend or relative with you to wait until your case is heard
Tell a bailiff or sheriff that you are afraid of the abuser and ask him/her to look out for you
走之前一定要拿到法院的命令
Ask the judge or the sheriff to keep the abuser there for a while when court is over; leave quickly
If you think the abuser is following you when you leave, call the police immediately
If you have to travel to another State for work or to get away from the abuser, take your protection order with you; it is valid everywhere

Portions of this article reprinted by permission of the American Bar Association from The 家庭暴力及安全 Plan: Safety Tips For You And Your Family, 是美国律师协会侵权审判的联合项目 & Insurance Practice Section and the ABA Commission on 家庭暴力.